By Rabison Shumba & Adiltariq
Children are very sensitive individuals who can tell if a parent is trustworthy or not. Relationship with children has to be developed with each day that you interact with them. I have two children and from grooming them I have a few lessons that any parent or would-be parent can use to gain the trust and attention of their children.
A few hints
- Take time to teach and talk to them - Children obey the teachings of their parents more than any other voices. When you do not avail yourself to teach them the principles of life, they will try and find a source to teach them like television and so on. You are the teacher of those children. Be available to fulfill that mandate. It should not always be about correcting them lest they fold into themselves in.
- Tuck them away at night - This is one thing that lacks in modern society. Parents are so busy trying to make a living and find money to feed their families such that kids go to bed without hearing the voice of the parents. They eventually lose the connection. Tucking them away is very important. Read them a bedtime story, sing a lullaby, pray for them, read bible story and so on. They sleep better, excited. Whenever I would skip this process, my daughter at one point would wake up in the middle of the night and complain about how I didn't pray for her and now she had a bad dream.
- Celebrate them every time - If you remember their birthday and celebrate it, kids will love you forever. If they show a sign of improving in their school work, you notice and celebrate them, you would have given them enough arsenal to take on the world. Children are sensitive to this. They may fail you but the ultimate desire is to see their parent happy. My youngest daughter always looks at my facial expressions when she communicates her results. Even if it is a 56% she expects me to be excited. I remember blurting "56%, that is not good enough". She sobbed all afternoon. She still desired to be celebrated and encouraged. Some children will not crumble but feel energized by a challenge like that. Study and see how your children receive correction.
- Spend quality time with them - This does not mean just being in the same room. It means you are totally focused on what they are saying. Making them feel important. Drop what you are doing and concentrate. As a parent this has been one very hard task to stick to. I would be in the same place with them and not really be with them as I would be busy typing away, articles, books, editing and so on. If they notice this then they feel unimportant. They may not tell you but you begin to lose value in their sight.Ginger anodyne clears the palate
- Correct them firmly - Children will always want to be corrected. The best tutors they have are not in school but back home. Be firm on issues of principle. When you teach and correct them while they are young they will grow knowing and appreciating you for your input. Children with no parents are sometimes rowdy as they have no one who can sit them down and guide them. If you are a living parent take this responsibility with both hands and play your part.
- Explain the why not just the how - Sometimes children don't like it when they are told how to do things without the underlying explanations of why. Children have the most inquisitive minds ever. My eldest daughter will not stop asking the question Why. She asks, you answer and she will develop further and ask another why until there is understanding. They are not being a problem but simply desiring to know as much as possible. They are children remember.
- Meet every promise you make - They will grow to know that you can be depended on. When you promise them anything, always go out of your way to meet the promise
- Tell the truth - If you decide to tell lies and they get to find out then you will automatically set the tone on how they should also run their lives. Everything you do is something they feel can be copied to be part of their own lives. You can create a problem by modeling what you don't want.
- Be real and open - Be the original parent that you have always been. The fact that you now have children does not mean that you now have to be serious and mean. It just means you have matured and now need to work with your children to groom them to be the best they can be in life. Avoid being the person they see in movies and be real.
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Rabison Shumba is a writer, businessman and philanthropist. Writer of the book The Greatness Manual which you can preview onhttp://greatnessmanual.wordpress.com. Founder and CEO of Infotech Solutions and Greatness Factory Trust. Rabison speaks about success, leadership, motivation and inspiration. His trust works with disadvantaged school children supporting them with school fees and general livelihood. He also helps to network artists (musicians of all genres) to facilitate information sharing and building of future celebrities. Rabison is well traveled having been to Asia, America, United Kingdom and all over Africa. He is married to Jacqueline Edwards and they have two children. They reside in Harare, Zimbabwe, Southern Africa. |
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